Can Self-Love Help You Create The Life (And Career) You Want?
18 Top Tips – How Loving yourself is essential to creating the life and career you desire.
Do you feel stuck? Are you unhappy with where you are in your career (business)? Maybe you just aren’t happy with yourself.
To create the life and career you want, consider how you feel about yourself: Do you embrace your true self enough to make changes that will help you achieve your goals – as though your life deserves it?
Is your mindset ready to go from “I’m not good enough” to “I am good enough?”
Could self-love help create the life (career) you want?
Self-love is a powerful force that helps you achieve your goals. You feel confident, motivated, and capable when you are filled with self-love. Able to take risks, overcome challenges, and accomplish things you’d never thought possible.
But there’s a catch!
Learn to love yourselves before you can truly love others. And that means learning to love yourself as an individual, entrepreneur, and member of society.
Keep reading if you’re ready to learn to love yourself. Here is my top 17 list of tips for loving yourself.
1. Be Grateful for Everything You Already Have.
Take time every day to be grateful for everything you already have.
If you’re not happy with where you are right now, you won’t be able to achieve anything significant. Be thankful for everything you already have. Is there a point in complaining about things you don’t have when there are many things you do have – no, there is much point!
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Focus on what you’ve accomplished rather than what you haven’t. And most importantly, focus on what you can achieve next.
When you’re feeling down, remind yourself of everything you have. You’re living the life you were meant to live. You know that nothing wrong ever happens to anyone who doesn’t deserve it. Remind yourself that every day is another opportunity to improve yourself and your situation.
And finally, remember that you’re going to be OK. You’re going to find happiness and fulfillment. You’re going to succeed. You’re going to be successful. You’re going to thrive.
Your attitude matters. Your mindset determines your future. So change your thoughts, and you change your life.
2. Remember that You’re Special.
You are unique, so be proud of yourself.
Have you ever been told you were too bright, pretty, talented, or anything else? Then you already know this feeling.
Sometimes, people all feel like we’re not enough. Remember that you’re special!
That’s because you are a unique individual who brings your personality, talents, and values to every situation. And because you are different (as are all people), you have strengths and weaknesses.
So instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself.
Remind yourself that you’re special, then you’ll be able to accept compliments and appreciate what you do well.
You’ll stop trying to change who you are and instead focus on improving the areas where you need improvement.
And when you recognize your uniqueness, you’ll become more confident. Confidence leads to self-love, which leads to happiness. And happiness leads to success.
3. Take Care of Your Body.
There’s no guarantee in business that everything will be able to work in your business every day. When you take care and balance physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, you’ll feel better and perform better at work.
Your physical appearance reflects who you are. So take care of yourself. Eat well, exercise regularly, sleep well, and keep stress at bay. These habits will help you feel confident and healthy.
And remember, you’re not just competing with others; you’re competing with yourself. You’ve got to be better than yesterday, today, and tomorrow. And that means being healthier, stronger, smarter, and more attractive.
If you’re feeling down, depressed, stressed, or tired, you need to find ways to improve these areas of your life.
Don’t wait until you’re sick to change your lifestyle. Start now!
4. Treat Yourself Nicely.
It’s OK to be kind to yourself.
Running a successful business requires that you need to treat yourself well. Be kind, take care of your body, get enough sleep, eat healthy food, exercise regularly, etc.
You feel better, perform better, and attract more clients and customers when you take care of yourself.
So when you run a business, treat yourself well! – When you’re feeling down, treat yourself well!
Treating yourself well helps you feel better about yourself and your business. It gives you energy and motivation to keep going when times are tough.
Don’t neglect yourself.
Make sure you care for yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Do things that help you relax and recharge. That could include:
- Taking walks in nature (taking walks in urban areas just sucks.)
- Reading inspirational books
- Watching movies
- Eating healthy foods
- Getting enough QUALITY sleep
- Having some quality alone time.
Do these things regularly, and you’ll be surprised at how much better you feel.
5. Love Yourself Unconditionally.
“BE” Yourself Unconditionally
An important lesson to learn is when you love yourself – unconditionally. Be willing to accept your flaws, weaknesses, and mistakes because no matter who you are, you’re still human.
Love yourself unconditionally because you become confident and healthy when doing just that.
That is because confidence spreads the wings of self-love, which flies to happiness. Happiness is equal to health, which leads to longevity.
When you love yourself unconditionally, you realize that you’re not perfect, but you’re OK just the way you are. And that’s the beginning of genuine self-confidence and true self-love!
And when you love yourself unconditionally and live according to this principle, you begin to attract positive things into your lives. Relationships improve, finances grow, and most importantly, your health improves.
Whenever you feel down or depressed, you haven’t loved yourself enough. So, let go of all negative thoughts and feelings and start loving yourself unconditionally.
6. Accept Yourself for Who You Are.
Don’t try too hard or put pressure on yourself…
The most important lesson is probably: “accept yourselves for who you are.”
You need to embrace your flaws, weaknesses, and imperfections because they’re what make the uniqueness that makes you.
These things set us apart from others. There is no other like you on earth, in the past, future, or now.
Some youngsters have trouble accepting themselves for who they are—for instance, being ashamed of their body, hair color, or weight—not feeling comfortable enough to wear certain outfits.
The insecurity about my appearance and worry that no one would find me attractive – was immense.
But over time, you get to rationalize and realize that these feelings were just silly. No one is perfect nor unattractive. The appearance doesn’t define the person. Instead, you decided to learn to love me for who you are.
Stop focusing on what wasn’t and start appreciating everything about you. Today, be proud of who you are…Body. Hair color. Weight.
Feel confident when you dress up and dress down. Be proud of your accomplishments and excited about your future.
If you’re struggling with self-acceptance, try this exercise:
- Write out a list of your strengths.
- Then write out a list of your weaknesses.
- Next, compare them.
Which feels worse?
What does this tell you about yourself?
Once you realize that you’re OK just as you are, you’ll be able to move forward confidently.
7. Appreciate Yourself.
Be grateful for everything…
If you’re unhappy with who you are, you miss out on everything life offers.
Perhaps you are stuck in a job where you hate every minute, or you may feel like you’re struggling to find direction in your personal life.
But when you appreciate yourself, you become happier, healthier, and better able to handle whatever comes along.
Start appreciating yourself today by writing down three things you like about yourself. Then, pick another positive attribute to add to your list each day.
Soon, you’ll notice that you’ve built a strong foundation for self-confidence, happiness, and well-being.
8. Believe In Yourself.
Belief is everything…
If you’ve been told you’re too smart to be successful, you’re not alone. But there’s no reason to believe that. You just need to believe in yourself.
When you believe in yourself, you become confident. Confidence leads to better decisions, faster thinking, and greater creativity. And when you feel sure, you can accomplish anything.
The problem is that most people never develop self-confidence. They lack belief in themselves. So they end up believing that they can’t succeed.
But you can change this mindset. You can believe in yourself. Believe that you can achieve great things. Then go out and do them!
Many entrepreneurs struggle with belief because they believe they’re not cut out to be successful. And when things go wrong, they question whether there was ever anything worthwhile about being an entrepreneur.
Here’s the truth, everyone is capable of becoming an entrepreneur, including you! There are no limits to what you can achieve.
The only real difference between those who succeed at entrepreneurship and those who fail boils down to self-confidence. Some entrepreneurs simply lack confidence, while others lack knowledge and skills.
But regardless, entrepreneurs need to learn how to foster positive beliefs about themselves and their ability to create wealth and fulfill dreams.
When you believe in yourself, everything becomes possible:
- Your business goals become attainable.
- Your dream of having financial freedom becomes a reality.
- Your health improves dramatically.
So start believing in yourself.
9. Be Patient With Yourself.
Don’t get frustrated with yourself if things don’t go smoothly initially.
Are you serious about growing your online/offline business? If so, then you need to be patient with yourself!
Because building, you will need to build an entrepreneurial mindset, and that takes years of practice. Some things take longer than others. Some things never happen at all, no matter how hard you try.
Don’t beat yourself up when things go wrong. Instead, use those lessons learned and move forward toward achieving your goals. And remember – this is only the beginning.
There’s still a lot of work ahead of you.
The world needs entrepreneurs who not only create jobs but who are passionate about creating successful businesses. However, there’s no magic formula for becoming an entrepreneur.
It takes hard work, dedication, and patience. But once you’re an entrepreneur, you won’t feel satisfied unless you’re being generous and giving to others.
When we’re young, we tend to believe that our success depends entirely upon ourselves. Often put everything into becoming the next Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Oprah Winfrey, Donald Trump, etc.
Entrepreneurship doesn’t come naturally to most of us, yet Entrepreneurship isn’t rocket science! It just requires putting yourself out there and taking risks – calculated risks!
Remember: it’s OK to fail along the way. Just be patient with yourself. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
Everyone starts somewhere, and everyone progresses at a different rate. So be patient, take action, and watch your company grow!
10. Learn to Forgive Yourself.
You’re not perfect – so don’t beat yourself up!
When was the last time you felt confident or even loved yourself?
Most would say never. Being conditioned to believe you’re a failure at some point in your life, perhaps for years. But that’s not true. You are worthy!
The best way to feel better about yourself is to learn to forgive yourself for failing.
Sure, failure sucks, but let go of feeling guilty or ashamed over it. Instead, be happy to learn what you need to improve next time. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. That helps build self-esteem and confidence.
One of the best ways to overcome negative feelings about yourself is to focus on loving yourself.
Start small by forgiving yourself every day for just one moment to remind you that you are lovable.
Then add moments to 2 days until you reach seven days. Each time you permit yourself to love yourself, you gain confidence.
When you’re ready, try focusing on giving yourself compliments daily. No matter how small: “you look great today” or “you did a great job yesterday.”
Don’t wait till the end of the week to compliment yourself. Make it a habit. And remember, don’t give yourself compliments when others aren’t looking; when no one is watching, you’ll feel more comfortable and free to give yourself positive feedback.
And finally, practice forgiveness as often as possible. Set aside time each afternoon to focus on forgiving yourself for everything that happened throughout the day.
Forgiving yourself is essential because it makes room for growth. As you ignore yourself for failing, you’ll become more open to learning and growing. Every time you practice forgiveness, you create space for improvement.
11. Show Kindness To Others.
People feel stressed out, anxious, and unhappy because the brain perceives adverse events as more stressful than positive ones. So when you’re feeling down and out, instead of thinking about yourself, show compassion to yourself!
If you are angry and resentful over minor things at work, take a step back and view items with perspective.
Ask yourself if there may be something bigger going on:
- Is this client not paying you enough?
- Are you being mistreated?
Your judgment is often clouded by anger and resentment. Instead, ask yourself, “How would I feel if this happened to me?”
Then let go and treat yourself kindly. That will help you maintain balance and control over your emotions and thoughts, helping you stay healthier and happier.
You almost certainly need encouragement to succeed. Show yourself some kindness by helping others along the way. Compassion can help you achieve tremendous success.
12. Be Generous.
Every day you’re faced with daunting obstacles, many entrepreneurs turn inward and self-destruct. Feel overwhelmed, afraid, and unable to move forward!
However, that does not need to be true for everyone. Learn to give yourself some space, take care of your body and mind, nurture yourselves, and become healthier and more robust. You gain the ability to create momentum and move forward toward goals.
You may not realize it at first. But as you practice the “permission to relax,” slowly feel better. And that feeling spreads outwards—you’ll grow more confident, healthy, and capable and become able to help others through their journey.
When you’re trying to accomplish multiple tasks simultaneously, it can be challenging to focus on just one task at a time and let go of the others. Sometimes you need to step back from these projects to find out how you truly feel about them. Sometimes you need to permit yourselves to stop working. And sometimes, you need to give yourself a break.
If you can do this for yourselves, we can certainly do this for others. It’s called being generous.
13. Be Forgiving.
Being forgiving is essential because entrepreneurs often fall victim to negative thinking patterns.
These thoughts include:
- Blaming others being critical
- Jealous of other people
- Comparing yourself to others believing that you’re not worthy
The problem is that when one becomes judgmental toward themselves (and others), the brains release chemicals that cause us to feel bad and give up. We’re essentially trapped in an endless cycle of negativity.
Instead of letting this happen, be forgiving of mistakes and failures. When you let go of past pain and hurt, you free yourself to move forward and improve your life. That’s essential to becoming successful!
Sometimes things just don’t go our way, and we end up feeling frustrated or angry. Being compassionate toward yourself when this happens will help ease the pain. Being patient, forgiving, and humble is also essential to an entrepreneur.
An essential step in becoming an entrepreneur is identifying your strengths and weaknesses.
Don’t try to hide anything from yourself. People learn only through experience, so be open to learning from mistakes and failures. And remember that everyone makes them. Suppose you are honest with yourself and others.
In that case, you won’t feel embarrassed or ashamed when you admit your shortcomings and acknowledge your mistakes.
After acknowledging your flaws, take responsibility for them and move forward. Do not blame anyone else for your failure; instead, use the feedback to improve your attitude and behavior. Sometimes you fail, but ultimately, you will succeed because you never give up.
Put yourself out there, have faith in yourself, and work hard on yourself (through – self-development), not your goals – every day, you’ll eventually achieve everything you set out to accomplish. And remember, nobody ever achieved anything unless they loved themselves first.
14. Be Compassionate.
Your life is just too important to waste obsessing over yourself.
Instead, be compassionate towards yourself, and this simple act will overspill on to others. They’re going through similar struggles. And they need help – not self-recrimination!
When you’re feeling down and out, it’s easy to beat yourself up. But this only makes things worse. Instead, take a deep breath, remind yourself that you’re still alive, and give yourself some Compassion.
If you feel that you’ve wasted your life, consider this – there are millions of people who would kill to be where you are right now. Believe it or not! So, stop beating yourself up and spend your energy helping them.
One of the essential parts of being an entrepreneur is having compassion, and being compassionate means treating yourself well, both physically and mentally, and emotionally. Not only does this help you feel better (and show others that you’re feeling great), but it helps you attract more positive relationships in your life.
What else can you do?
When you go out, take care of yourself. Eat healthily, exercise regularly, sleep enough, and indulge occasionally, but never abuse, especially when it comes to tobacco, alcohol, or drugs.
Also, make sure you stop working long hours at work and give yourself some “alone” time every day, whether you need it or not. And lastly, let go of negative thinking patterns.
Learn to be compassionate towards yourself.
15. Be Humble.
An essential part of being successful at anything is to bring with it some humility. Think back over your life and consider where you’ve been successful:
What were you doing when you achieved this success?
Were you arrogant and cocky?
Did you just treat everyone else with respect and kindness?
We’re all human beings and deserve to be treated with respect. So let’s work together to build our businesses and create the lives we desire.
Being humble is essential for entrepreneurs.
The first step towards humility is recognizing that you’re a regular person who makes mistakes, not some superhuman genius with magical powers. Being with humility, you realize that everyone else does too. It’s OK to fail! – Everyone fails at things sometimes.
What matters isn’t whether we succeed; it’s how quickly we learn, adjust, grow, and improve. And remember that it’s not your fault when you screw up. It’s never anyone’s fault except yours.
Just be humble enough to admit that you were wrong.
And there’s no better place to start growing your humility than by developing self-confidence. Self-confidence comes from within and develops over time, but you can begin building it right now…
Start by practicing gratitude every day.
Every morning, before you eat breakfast, take a moment to reflect on everything you have to be grateful for, including yourself. Do this for ten days, and you’ll notice a change in attitude.
Next, practice positive affirmation. Write down three claims each night, and repeat them each morning.
Finally, remember to forgive yourself and others whenever you mess up. Don’t beat yourself up; don’t let anyone else drag you down. No matter what happens, keep going.
Remember, it’s not your job to judge yourselves or others. Your job is to go out there, try hard, and hope we improve along the way. So strive always to give 100% of yourself, and you’ll feel confident and happy.
16. Be Authentic.
Being true to yourself as an entrepreneur begins with confidence in who you are and in your values. To be true to yourself, you need to believe in yourself and your beliefs about life. That makes you feel comfortable sharing them with others because you know you’re not lying to them.
In essence, being true to yourself means having confidence in yourself, your product, and your mission. Being authentic makes you trustworthy and believable as a person with a lot going on in your life.
When your audience trusts you, they do so because they perceive you as real, honest, and genuine!
Your audience feels better about investing their time and energy when you seem confident and authentic. So be bold enough to say things you genuinely mean out loud and act in ways that reflect those feelings. Be truthful in your actions, thoughts, and words. Don’t hide anything from anyone.
Just suppose you were writing a blog post; well, being yourself is very important when writing content for your website. Your voice, tone, style, personality, and opinions should be reflected throughout your posts. No two blogs are alike – each must remember who you are.
Your audience will naturally respond favorably if you’re honest and sincere about everything you write.
They’ll trust you as a person and admire your honesty. And, because they trust you, they’ll believe what you have to say.
Your authenticity will help attract followers, build credibility, and persuade them to take action. Even though you may not agree with every post you publish, nobody wants to hear a phony or overly scripted persona online.
So, if you write at length about topics close to your heart, make sure you speak honestly and sincerely.
17. Love Your Customer, Not Your Product or Service
Your product or service is only as good as the experience you give your customers. So do yourself a favor and stop thinking about your product or service. Instead, think about the knowledge you’re giving them.
Think about how great you’d feel if every day felt like Valentine’s Day.
- Would you be happy?
- Would you get out of bed for work?
- What would you do with your free time?
- Would you travel anywhere?
Write down these answers and consider making your life better through the power of positive self-talk.
Suppose you create a loving relationship with your customers. In that case, you won’t need to sell anything because they’ll buy everything from you. Now that’s true love!
Because when you’re running a small business, there’s no room for the ego! Being humble and selfless because if you’re not making millions of dollars every month. Instead, you’re providing a product or service to others, who may or may not pay you back.
So, never forget that your customers are your lifeblood. They’re the reason you wake up each day and go to work, so when you treat them well, they’ll return the favor. And when they do, they become loyal fans and repeat buyers. 🙂
And, of course, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care about your needs and wants. But rather than putting yourself above your customers, put yourself below them.
Think of your customers as your friends, family members, and colleagues. Treat them as such, and you’ll find that they’ll reciprocate.
All things considered…
Self-love is the most potent force in the universe. When you genuinely love yourself, you attract into your life everything you desire! And when you have confidence in yourself, you become unstoppable!
So go ahead and give yourself a little pep talk today. Tell yourself that you deserve to live the life of your dreams and that you will create it.
Then take action NOW!
That’s because it’s an essential ingredient to living a happy, healthy, and prosperous life! And if you’re looking to create the business (career) and lifestyle you want, first accept yourself for who you are.
After all, nobody else will ever see you the same way again once you embrace your true self.